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So many people look back at their life and wonder about the what ifs. They wonder what they have missed and what mistakes they have made and how their life could’ve been better now or if it could’ve turned out different. They sometimes regret the things they had done but more often than not it’s the things that they haven’t done and the things that they’ve missed out on that haunt them. I used to be one of those people but I learned that you just have to deal what you have in your life and either let some things go or strive for others but no matter what you just have to keep moving forward.
Look at where you are now and realize what you are missing and what you need to do to fill that space. If there are things in your life that are not helpful or useful you need to realize what is important to you and let go of the rest. We have been taught to believe that it’s just too late at a certain point in our lives to do some things but it never is and if you’re not happy there is nobody to blame but yourself. No matter what you’ve been led to believe no one can have control over your life but you.
So keep moving forward and only look back to see how far you’ve come.
Because reminiscing, on the other hand is a whole other thing. I reminisce about the good times I’ve had and think about certain things I wouldn’t mind doing again that would make me happy. In other instances I may remember things I felt I missed out on and do my darnedest to make sure I make those things happen. And sometimes I just reminisce about all the good I’ve had in my life and what I can do to make sure that continues to happen. I use my past to propel me forward and in the last couple years I am able to look back and realize how far I’ve really come and what other things I can do in the future to better myself.
Today I took time to reflect a little on my life, what it is, what it’s been and what I want it to be. I’ve looked back on the last few years… and previous blogs. While I don’t think I’m quite up to snuff on my writing as much as I’d like to be I can look back and be proud of how much I have moved forward in my life. I have so much more confidence and independence than I used to and I can honestly say I’m really happy.
I still live in the same town, but I have a good job and this fall I’m going back to school to work on finishing my Ag Business Certificate. My fiance and I are now planning a fall wedding in 2018 and after that are planning to move out of state, maybe to Nevada, maybe Wyoming, maybe somewhere else. We will just have to see. But things are moving forward.
Looking at myself now I am not the same sad girl who was afraid of change and hard challenges. I am no longer afraid of love making me weak and instead now see how much strength and courage it gives me. I now embrace the things I fear and I have grown more this past year than I could’ve hoped. So much has been changing and it thrills me. I’m so ready for everything the future is going to bring and I strive to always move forward in one way or another and I am always chasing my happiness and creating more for myself when the situation at hand isn’t ideal. Looking back I realize how different a person I am and how you have to keep moving forward.
I realize that the only way to be happy is to push yourself and be in difficult and new situations because you grow from them and become a happier person in the long run. You learn more about yourself and what you like versus what you don’t like. You realize what your made of which makes you even braver the next time you have to face something. You learn that even when things seem to be falling down around you and you are overwhelmed that this is temporary and you just have to do your best and push forward and you will be okay. You learn that you can handle more than you ever thought was possible.
I feel more excited about my life than I possibly have ever been and I look forward to all the good things to come instead of dreading the bad things that may or may not happen. Change is scary but for me, it’s scarier to look back on your life and realize you are in the same place you were in years ago and you’re still unsatisfied and unhappy. I’ll take those challenges and the nerves that come with them over that everyday of the week and twice on Sunday.
So because regret is the only thing I don’t want to feel when I look back on my life, I will keep moving forward… and so should you.